Recently, I read this touching article of a couple who did a ‘remembrance photography’ of their little girl who was stillborn. I really urge you to have a look at the photos here and have a good bawl.
One of the most crushing words I have seen in a long time: For this child I have prayed.
I have mixed feelings every time I see this picture. It portrays a sense of both hope and grief, of love found yet lost. And I thought to myself, if I ever had a friend who lost a child, what would I say to them? If I was the one who lost the child, what would I want them to say? I mean, it’s really a heart-stopping, mind-halting kind of question.
I remember as an immature and oblivious 14-year-old teen sitting at youth sunday school in Church, and the teacher asked, ‘What would you say to someone who lost a baby? Or whose loved one was taken away so violently, suddenly or silently?’. Being the somewhat clueless and insensitive girl I was, I said what I had always been taught in Sunday School: ‘Tell them it’s God’s will. It’s for their own good. God has a plan.’
Yes, such truth – but was it really what they wanted to hear at that moment?
To be honest, I don’t even know why I’m blogging about this because I seriously do not have an answer to such a hard and painful question. Every time I look at those words ‘For this child I have prayed’, how can I possibly say those insensitive words? From the moment of conception, every mother has whispered to their baby, dreamed about their lives and loved them for their very being.
It stops my heart right now just hearing those words replay in my mind. Yet, there is some sort of peace and comfort knowing that every prayer is heard and answered. Every little whisper you pray to God, He hears it and He honours it. God has written every story from beginning to the end, He is omniscient, omnipresent and omnipowerful, He sees both the beginning and the end at the same time. What has just started, has already been written.
See you in heaven, Monroe Faith.
To all mothers, may this be your prayer.
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